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The other day, on Facebook, in one of the “Buy Nothing” type of groups, which I have mentioned previously, I shared a short story as a preface to an offer I was posting. For those that don’t know about Buy Nothing groups on Facebook, the idea is that people post their no longer needed items (some are brand new but never opened) and gift them for free to other members who reply and members can also post things that they are needing/wanting to get for free. I’m amazed at how well it works. I’ve gotten an awful lot of things totally free and I have gifted many things. However, sometimes things fall apart when members are a little less than careful. That’s what happened to me recently and I posted about it in the group as a funny thing that can happen. Then I offered the item I had accidentally ended up with. Here’s the post:

“Long post. Bear with me. This is an offer but more importantly, a gentle note about pictures posted with offers. When you take a picture to post with an item you are offering, please take an extra look at it to make sure it is representative of the item. You know what it is but will others? In December I responded to an offer for an item I thought was a bench. I thought it was perfect for my grandsons to sit on. The listing didn’t say what the item was. It just asked if anyone wanted “this” and was accompanied by a picture which I now know was not a full picture of the front of the item. She didn’t mean to fool anyone and I should have asked for specifics. She delivered and left it where I asked her to but I didn’t see this bench! It’s not a child size bench. It’s a desk! Because I have no room for it, the desk sits outside my front door, blocking the passage. I literally have no room in or outside my house. It’s my fault. But it would have helped if the picture had been a little better. So if anyone needs a DESK, I have this one. I’ll try to get better pictures in daylight.”

I figured it was funny and a “teachable moment” but one woman wasted no time in letting me know that I could have listed the desk as an offer and skipped the story. And she was rather rude about how she worded her comment. When I read her comment I was upset. She was pretty rude. My first instinct was to fire back an equally rude comment. However, that’s not really like me and I didn’t recognize her name so I figured she was a newer member (it turns out she has only been in the group for a week). I decided that I would leave it alone and if others agreed that it was unnecessary, I would delete it but I figured what was most likely to happen is that people would see her meanness and comment on that. So I bit my lip; sat on my hands; and pretty much moved away and closed Facebook entirely so I wouldn’t be tempted to respond to her comment. An hour later, I got notifications about activity on that post. I went to look. What I found was that I was right. People saw her comment as mean and snooty and let her have it. No fewer than nine people came to my defense and said the post was valuable for the lesson/reminder about both the photos that accompany items and about being more specific when we list items and when we reply to them. Yay! I didn’t have to say one word.

I learned that I should not be too thin skinned and that mean people should be left alone because no one wants to play with a mean person. In fact, several people that commented on her comment specifically said they would be reluctant to gift to her because of her attitude.

So I am trying to come around and read blogs and check in on some of my old readers that I seem to have lost track of but I also have several things I want to post. So, I will be back.

Have a great day!

Note: Today is National Word Nerd Day! Go learn a new word, play a word game, or write some of your own words!

 

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