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Last week, when I was at my daughter’s, I noticed that Maya was using her mom’s water bottle. Although Tina has a gazillion water bottles, I did wonder why Maya was using Tina’s 32 oz bottle, after all, she’s only 4! I didn’t say anything but it did catch my attention. Maya loves pink and the water bottle she had appropriated is pink and yellow. I figured it was because of the color.

On Mondays, I go to my daughter’s during the day every week because we share a Gleaners account so on Mondays we get a large food distribution that we split. This Monday when I was there, we were talking about how attached Maya is to me. Then Tina told me that Maya had asked if she could please have Tina’s water bottle because it’s pink and yellow and pink is her favorite color and yellow is Nana’s favorite color! So it’s because it connects me and her! I almost cried. Tina did tell me that she found the same water bottle in a smaller size and ordered it as a surprise for Maya!

That was my smile for the week. What made you smile? Tell us about it. Go visit Trent and leave a link to your smile!

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October’s End

It seems that it’s over before I got a chance to enjoy it. One day it was October first then overnight it’s the thirty-first.

Halloween piñata after the kids had their way with it.

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My grandson got a very nice laptop after Christmas — one of those after Christmas/January inventory deals. He’s only 8 but thought he wanted to use the laptop to “do music” on it. Well, my daughter isn’t knowledgeable about mu: sic or programs about music and they really can’t afford to sign up for an expensive program that he might not follow through with. So, the laptop went unused for months. She finally issued an ultimatum: use the new laptop or we give it to Nana. Another couple of months went by and lo and behold, one day I walked into their house and Spencer handed me the laptop with a big smile on his face and said it was mine! I asked him if he was sure and he said yes.

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That means that I now have a nice new Windows laptop! I have used nothing but Chromebooks since they came out so now I have to get used to Windows all over again and used to having things online and not directly on the hardware! I actually don’t like that as much but it is the way of the [digital] world right now.

That’s my smile this week! A new laptop that I could not afford for myself, courtesy of my grandson who thought he would do something but eventually realized it wouldn’t.

Of course, I still don’t have internet at home so I will, for the time being, be using it just when I am at my daughter’s. I can set it up to use my phone as a hot spot but then T-Mobile gets mad at me and shuts off my hot spot data. They did that last month. One of these days I will put on my big girl pants and call Comcast. I qualify for the $10 a month plan for low income but they are so horrible to deal with that I haven’t called them. I only had to wait 3 months to be able to set it up after quitting the service and it has been almost a year now because I just hate dealing with them. They all seem to be incompetent robotic beings that keep me on hold for hours and transfer me to department after department after department. So I am putting it off but I need to do it soon. The weather is changing and I don’t like to drive across the Columbia River in the rain sS

In other news, the Johnson & Johnson Covid-19 booster has been approved and I have my appointment for next Monday. Yay!

What made YOU smile this week? Tell us about it. Visit Trent’s Weekly Smile to find out how you can link up!

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Maya Mouse

Maya will be four years old on February 9. This weekend, we are celebrating her birthday. Normally, she would have a party but thanks to Covid-19 we can’t do that this year. Instead, we are doing a stay-cation in a local hotel. I was in charge of picking up the kids at daycare and bringing them to the hotel while her mommy drove to the hotel, checked in, and decorated the room. Decorations? Why Mickey and Minnie, of course. Maya loves them. In fact, she has to wear something with Minnie on it every single day. I sometimes tease that she is going to be very disappointed when she figures out that she isn’t really Minnie Mouse!

She was so excited when the door to the room opened up and she was greeted with Mickey and Minnie balloons as big as she is! She said, “Is this my Minnie Mouse bird day?” Yeah, bird day. Okay, she’s only technically 3! She is flying high tonight and doesn’t want to go to sleep. Tomorrow, there will be cake and presents and other surprises. She doesn’t know that yet.

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Some things we hear stay with us for a long time. We might not understand them completely when we first hear them but we know they will come back at some point and we’ll understand completely.

Many years ago, one of my three brothers committed suicide. He left a wife and four children and then there were us, his siblings and parents. I won’t go into all of the feelings and thoughts that followed his death. That’s not where this story is going. At some point, not sure exactly when, I think it was about a month after his death, my sister-in-law started calling me in the mornings. We would chat about her feelings. I would let her talk and respond when appropriate. Sometimes we talked about silly things. There was always, as you can imagine, an underlying sadness to those calls. I soon learned that my brother used to call his wife at morning break every day and that was the time that they spent talking about the kids and feelings and stuff. It was their time with no kids around.

One of things that she was missing without him was the chance to tell him about what the kids were doing when he was at work. She said that it used to be that she could share the silly things the kids did that made her crack up and then things they did or said that made her proud. She said that as parents, they were the only ones that would understand those things. She could share the same things with other people but it would never be the same.

I thought about that a lot. I was a new mother then. My son wasn’t even a year old yet. I understood what she was saying because I used to fill my husband’s ears with all the things the baby did when he was at work. Every day he did something new and I shared that with him. Although I understood part of what my sister-in-law had said, I would understand it more and more as the years went by.

When my husband walked away from our family and turned the whole thing into a very hostile situation, I thought again about that conversation all those years before. I no longer had someone to share my day with and what the kids did and said or what they needed. He was out of the picture and inaccessible to me. It made me understand even more than before. Now, all these years after that original conversation in 1982, it has come right back to me.

For years, I used to talk to my mom on the phone and tell her all about the kids. When I moved far away, it became more important because we didn’t see her as often anymore. So the phone calls meant a lot. Then I moved further away and the grand kids arrived. For the last eleven years, many of our phone calls centered around sharing with her what my grandchildren were doing. How big they had grown, when they started school, and all those milestones, as well as the everyday silly things that happened involving the grandchildren. And that intensified four years ago when my only granddaughter arrived. She wanted to know all about her. She did meet her when Maya was about six months old. It was the only time she saw her. It was love at first sight…on both parts. After that visit, my mom wanted to know all about Maya. Was her hair getting darker? Was it curly or straight? How big was she? Was she talking? Walking? And because I didn’t have anyone to share those all important things with, I would not spare a detail. Sometimes I would call her just to tell her some silly thing the kids had done and we would laugh and laugh over it. It was the highlight of our conversations.

And then she died.

And now I miss that again. That’s one of the things that gets to me, almost every day since my mom died at the end of last August. I forget and I reach for the phone to tell her about Maya or about one of the boys and then it hits me. I can’t tell her. I can’t share that with her anymore. I don’t have anyone to share those moments with. I miss my mom. I miss that I can’t get in the car and go see her even thought it is a two day drive. I used to do it when I got to missing her a lot. I can’t anymore. I used to send my sister pictures of the kids by text and ask her to show them to my mom. I used to have pictures printed and mail them to her so she would have my grandchildren with her. I can’t anymore.

I miss her a lot. I miss her for many, many reasons and at so many different times but this is one of the things that gets to me almost every single day. There is something I want to tell her about the kids but she’s no longer here.

Sometimes it takes a long, long time to understand what we hear. Sometimes we don’t get it until we walk in other people’s shoes.

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The Weekly Smile 2-1-21

I know I am blessed with living so close to three of my four grandchildren and even more blessed that I have been able to keep seeing them during the pandemic (we’re in the same bubble). Sometimes I am a little insecure when the oldest stays up in his room or in the Lego Room (yeah, they have a whole room set up with Legos) the whole time I am there. I can be there from Saturday to Monday and not see him! I feel like he no longer cares about me. The middle one always comes to sit and talk to me, at least a couple of times a day when I’m there. But the little one…my Maya…is always all over me!

Last night, she woke up in the middle of the night and came to sleep with me. When I am there, I sleep on the recliner in the family room. So last night, Maya got up around one o’clock and came downstairs. I was still awake, reading. She made herself comfortable on my lap then she turned to face me with the sweetest smile and teary eyes. She put one hand on my cheek and I thought something was wrong. I asked her if something was wrong. She shook her head no and then she said, “I just love you so much, Nana.”

Talk about smiles! Every time I think of it I smile big and feel all that adoring love all over again. This is more than just a weekly smile. I think this will be one I remember forever.

What has you smiling this week? Please do tell! The Weekly Smile is hosted by Trent at Trent’s World The Blog . Come join us with your own weekly smile!

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Maya

I was over there today. She didn’t know I was there. When she saw me, she yelled out “Nana!” and came running to me, wrapping herself around me. While I was there, she kept saying, “I do glad you’re here.”

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Tomorrow

Tomorrow there will be remembrance posts about 9/11 and I was going to write one but tomorrow is also the day that Spencer (my six year old grandson) will be having kidney surgery and I will be preoccupied with that. I’m going to try to not worry. I can’t even be there with my daughter  (Tina) because it’s in the afternoon and I have to be at her house with the other kids who will be home from school by then. Luckily, my other daughter (Susie) volunteered to go to the hospital to be with Tina before I even asked her to. Yay for sisters and family!

It’s a three hour surgery. And of course, they probably won’t start on time so it may be late by the time I get any post-op word.  Can you tell I’m already nervous? I’m babbling!  Anyway, if you read this today or tomorrow, please hold a good thought and send positive energy!

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The past three weeks have been different as we get used to a new routine. With the kids in full time daycare, I’m not needed as much. However, we haven’t gotten into a routine because things keep popping up. The kids now live in Vancouver, Washington. You may have heard that there is an outbreak of measles in Clark County. That’s the county that covers Vancouver. Over half of the exposure sites are within a couple of miles of where they live. The daycare classes that the kids are in have kids that attend one of the elementary schools with confirmed cases of measles. The boys have been vaccinated but Maya had not been. My daughter does not like to vaccinate with the MMR (measles, mumps, rubella)until after age three. Maya turned two over the weekend. So it became a challenge to keep her from possible exposure. She stayed home from daycare and I stayed with her. She finally was able to get an appointment to get vaccinated against the measles. Then we were told she would be considered “safe” after ten days. My daughter was between jobs so she stayed home for her for a week then she had to start her new job so I stayed with her. She’s finally safe, or as safe as can be with the first of the two vaccines. [There are two vaccines. The first is given between 9 and 15 months and the second between 15 months and 6 years. The first vaccine is 93% effective and the second bumps the immunity up to 97%.]

Then the weather changed just in time for me to go up there for Maya’s birthday and get snowed-in! So I was up there again for a couple of days. I’m home. I’m a little sad (depressed, actually) because I miss them.

So where’s the smile? Well, after not seeing me for a week and a half, I went up there for Maya’s birthday and got up there early so I went to get the kids from daycare. They weren’t expecting me. When the boys saw me, they did a double take. Then we walked over to get Maya. I didn’t even have to call her name. She heard the door open and looked in that direction. She saw me and she tore off running toward me faster than you would guess a 2 year old could run. With outstretched arms, she jumped into my arms and grabbed a hold of me around my neck with a death grip! She put her little head on my shoulder and just held on tight. THAT was my smile. She missed me that much.

As I sit here typing this, although I’ve been depressed these couple of days since I last saw her, this memory is bringing back more smiles and I’m pretty sure that when I see her again next Sunday, she’ll be just as happy to see me. I’ll be staying with the kids while their mom works and the school and daycare are both closed for Presidents’ Day. I’m looking forward to that.

What made YOU smile this week? Tell us about it in your own #WeeklySmile post and head over to Trent’s Blog to check out more smiles.

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I got a text from my daughter on Wednesday evening. Maya was sick. It didn’t surprise me because Anderson and Spencer had been sick. In fact, my daughter stayed home with them on Monday but couldn’t miss a second day of work so I went over early Tuesday and stayed with the boys (and Maya). I came home that evening and the boys went to school on Wednesday. So I figured Maya would be getting sick but was hoping it would be on the weekend. That didn’t happen. I drove over super early on Thursday (I had to leave at 5:15 am) and stayed with Maya. She was so sick she didn’t wake up until after ten that morning. But she was sick. Fever, runny nose, watery eyes, the whole thing. And while she could actually have gone to day care sick, we didn’t think that was a good idea. There is a measles epidemic where they live and she has not been vaccinated so we didn’t want her to be more susceptible to it or to spread it if in fact it turned out to be measles. She was happy to see me and she cuddled with me all day, except during her four naps! She usually takes only one but that was another sign that she wasn’t well. I stayed with her again on Friday and she was much better. Still sick but much better.

So where’s the smile? I smiled because I was in a position to go take care of her so she would be more comfortable at home and so my daughter would not have to stay home from work a second day in the same week. That’s a pretty neat position to be in. I’m close enough to them and able to help out. And the bonus is that Maya is so attached to me that she cuddles with me when she’s sick but not with anyone else, not even with her mom. She loves her Nana and feels comfortable and loved and special so that’s a pretty neat thing to smile about!

I won’t tell you who is home with a fever and sniffles and sore throat now! But that’s okay. The Maya Snuggles were worth it!

What made you smile this week? Head over to Trent’s blog for his weekly blog hop feature, The #Weekly Smile!

 

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