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The other day, on Facebook, in one of the “Buy Nothing” type of groups, which I have mentioned previously, I shared a short story as a preface to an offer I was posting. For those that don’t know about Buy Nothing groups on Facebook, the idea is that people post their no longer needed items (some are brand new but never opened) and gift them for free to other members who reply and members can also post things that they are needing/wanting to get for free. I’m amazed at how well it works. I’ve gotten an awful lot of things totally free and I have gifted many things. However, sometimes things fall apart when members are a little less than careful. That’s what happened to me recently and I posted about it in the group as a funny thing that can happen. Then I offered the item I had accidentally ended up with. Here’s the post:

“Long post. Bear with me. This is an offer but more importantly, a gentle note about pictures posted with offers. When you take a picture to post with an item you are offering, please take an extra look at it to make sure it is representative of the item. You know what it is but will others? In December I responded to an offer for an item I thought was a bench. I thought it was perfect for my grandsons to sit on. The listing didn’t say what the item was. It just asked if anyone wanted “this” and was accompanied by a picture which I now know was not a full picture of the front of the item. She didn’t mean to fool anyone and I should have asked for specifics. She delivered and left it where I asked her to but I didn’t see this bench! It’s not a child size bench. It’s a desk! Because I have no room for it, the desk sits outside my front door, blocking the passage. I literally have no room in or outside my house. It’s my fault. But it would have helped if the picture had been a little better. So if anyone needs a DESK, I have this one. I’ll try to get better pictures in daylight.”

I figured it was funny and a “teachable moment” but one woman wasted no time in letting me know that I could have listed the desk as an offer and skipped the story. And she was rather rude about how she worded her comment. When I read her comment I was upset. She was pretty rude. My first instinct was to fire back an equally rude comment. However, that’s not really like me and I didn’t recognize her name so I figured she was a newer member (it turns out she has only been in the group for a week). I decided that I would leave it alone and if others agreed that it was unnecessary, I would delete it but I figured what was most likely to happen is that people would see her meanness and comment on that. So I bit my lip; sat on my hands; and pretty much moved away and closed Facebook entirely so I wouldn’t be tempted to respond to her comment. An hour later, I got notifications about activity on that post. I went to look. What I found was that I was right. People saw her comment as mean and snooty and let her have it. No fewer than nine people came to my defense and said the post was valuable for the lesson/reminder about both the photos that accompany items and about being more specific when we list items and when we reply to them. Yay! I didn’t have to say one word.

I learned that I should not be too thin skinned and that mean people should be left alone because no one wants to play with a mean person. In fact, several people that commented on her comment specifically said they would be reluctant to gift to her because of her attitude.

So I am trying to come around and read blogs and check in on some of my old readers that I seem to have lost track of but I also have several things I want to post. So, I will be back.

Have a great day!

Note: Today is National Word Nerd Day! Go learn a new word, play a word game, or write some of your own words!

 

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If you are on Facebook, you most likely have seen the black and white challenge. In the challenge, people are to post one black and white photo each day for seven days, no people and no explanations.

I participated in the challenge a couple of weeks ago and enjoyed it very much. Below you will find some of the photos that didn’t make it on to the Facebook end of the challenge.

 

 

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This past decade has been filled with technological advances.  These have been both good and bad.  In my case, I think they’re good!

In January of 2002 I had a car accident which left me unable to go back to work.  That meant that I was pretty much stuck at home.  My son was in college hundreds of miles away and both of my girls were doing an independent study curriculum.  This meant that I didn’t leave the house except when I had to drive them to the learning center to meet with their supervising teachers once a week.

I had already been online for many years (since 1993 and the early days of CompuServe with the black DOS screens and long user IDs that were numbers, not names), however I needed the computer and the internet a lot more during that time period.  Without the internet, I was pretty much isolated and shut out of everything.  So I started to pay more attention to my blogs (I had several at the time) and joined some graphics groups.  Later, I also reconnected with lost friends and began emailing and chatting with them on a regular basis.  This kept me going during the solitary times.

Without the internet and blogging, I would not have met a lot of amazing people who, although most of us have never met, are friends just as many of you are friends with people at work or from school or your neighborhood.  I’ve also met many of my internet friends in person and they have proven to be just as genuine in person as they are online!

One day I came across a MyPoints.com recommendation to visit a new site called “Gather.com”.  I logged in and lurked in the background for a couple of months before jumping in and becoming a part of the Gather community.  I made a lot more friends there, too!  That lasted for a while and around 2008 my visits at Gather.com became less and less frequent and in fact, since April of this past year, I don’t think I’ve been there except to read maybe four or five articles.  However, I am grateful for having stumbled upon Gather.com as a lot of my friends and blog buddies are a result of Gather.com.

Then came Facebook.  I joined a long time ago (around 2005) but didn’t do much there until the past year when a lot  more of my friends became active in Facebook and I resurrected my presence there.  I’m now spending a lot of time at Facebook although since I stopped playing any of the games there, I don’t spend that much time there but I do visit it a couple of times a day.  Facebook also has the advantage of being a meeting place for a lot of my family members (nieces and nephews mostly) so that’s an added bonus!

In October of 2008 I discovered Twitter and what a discovery that was!  I originally joined in an effort to meet some of the local PDX twitter community as I was new to the area and knew only three people here and one of them was my daughter!  It was a lot of fun to follow the elections on twitter and to watch the Proposition 8 fiasco in California politics.  Twitter allows me to keep up with the local newspaper and broadcast news in some of the places I’ve lived so that I am still informed of what is happening there.  I don’t visit Twitter much because I didn’t really meet many people through it and although I have a lot of followers there, they really aren’t friends and most of them wouldn’t know my name if it was branded on my forehead.  Perhaps at some point Twitter will again play a larger role in my internet life but not at the moment.  There just doesn’t seem to be a friendly or welcoming presence there.

And my blog.  What would I do without my blog?  This blog?  I think I would be lost and would have no creative outlet.  Blogging here makes me feel like someone is listening and reading and cares about me and what I write, what I have experienced.  It has been a driving force.  Over the past two months, I have blogged every day in November and every day in December.  I’m going to try to continue as long as I can without a break but that is sometimes more and more difficult!

As you can see, technology has allowed me to make friends, reconnect with others, and keep in touch with my family and friends.  That’s pretty much a HUGE role in my life, especially as the years go on and I find myself living alone with no one to talk to, sometimes for days and days.  So I talk online.  I think I’d go crazy if I couldn’t do that.

In the coming decade, I’m sure I will still be actively dependent on technology.

So, in the coming ten years, I hope to see you all on the Internet(s)!

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