I can often empathize with my friend, Bibliomom. As a single mom of two, she is going through an awful lot of things that I have had to deal with in my life. This weekend she posted a picture of the Christmas tree she bought only to find out that it was a lot bigger than it had looked when she picked it out. She had trouble getting it inside her door.
This reminded me of the last Christmas my kids and I had a real tree for a long, long time. I did post this last year so you may remember it if you’ve been with me for a while. I’m cutting and pasting a couple of Christmas tree stories here for you. I hope you enjoy them.
We had always had real Christmas trees, not artificial on. That’s how it was when I was a child and when I married, we always got real ones too.
In November of 1992, my husband left home, leaving the three kids and me behind. When it was time to go out to get our tree the following month, the three kids and I went out and bought a real tree. We always had a big 7 foot tree in that house so that’s what I picked out that year. The guys at the Christmas tree lot tied it to the top of the car for us and we drove home. When we got home, it became obvious that we had a problem. First, in their infinite wisdom, the guys had tied the tree to the open windows of my station wagon. We couldn’t get the doors open. My son climbed out the window and went in and got some scissors to let us out of the car. By the time he got out, the girls had also climbed out their windows and I was the only one waiting, patiently, to be let out. He didn’t cut the whole rope/twine. He just pulled on it to get the door open enough for me to get out and cut one bit of the twine. Then we had another problem. The tree was too big and heavy for the kids and I to take it offf the top of the car. We couldn’t even reach it. I went inside and called friends and a couple of the neighbors but no one was home or couldn’t help for one reason or another. I called the kids’ dad but he said he wouldn’t come until the next time it was his turn to get the kids, in a few days. I couldn’t leave the tree up there and drive all over town with it that way for three days. Finally one friend called back and said her husband could come but not until the next day so the tree stayed on the car over night and in the morning, I drove the kids to school with the tree on top of the car. I also picked them up after school with it up there. Finally, my friend and her husband came and got it in the house for us. It’s a good thing it was very cold or the poor tree would have died!
That was the last time we had a real Christmas tree for a long time. The following year I debated about having a real tree or an artificial one and remembered all the hassle it had caused to get a real tree so I went to the local drug store and found a fairly decent one that was on sale and took that home. The kids helped me set it up and decorate it but it wasn’t the same. They accepted the artificial tree but missed having a real one. However, it was nice to have a tree that we could set up year after year without having to cut one down each year. When the fake tree got old and too tattered, it was replaced with another fake tree and the tattered one was donated to the school to use in the cafeteria.
In December of 2004, it was just my youngest (she was 14 then) and me left to set up the tree because she wanted to set it up before her brother and sister arrived on December 23rd. We set up the artificial tree and decorated it. She decided we didn’t have enough ornaments on it so we took a drive to Target to get a few more. However, we walked out of Target with a new artificial tree! Susie had fallen in love with a white pre-lit Christmas tree. She also decided she wanted only blue and gree decorations on the tree so we had to get a whole tree worth of green and blue ball ornaments and icicle ornaments. I laughed because she decided she wanted that one and moved heaven and earth to get it. She got someone there to agree that the tree should be a markdown item so we got the $150 tree for 60% off! And it was gorgeous. She even paid for the new green and blue ornaments with her money so I wouldn’t say it was too expensive. She didn’t want to use the multicolored decorations we had because they would ruin her new tree. All this she got away with because she looks at me really sweetly and smiles at me and hugs me and calls me “Mommy”. And if that doesn’t work, she reminds me that she’s my “baby”. Yup. She knows how to work it!
We got home and had to take the green artificial tree down before we could even bring the white tree inside from the car and set it up. It was a lot of work and although the white tree was sixty per cent off, it was still expensive but Susie was happy. I made sure she helped take the green tree down and set up the white tree. As far as decorating it, she took charge of the whole thing which was good because in previous years she had not shown much interest in helping to set it up!
This year, I don’t think I am even going to put up the tree. We won’t be here for Christmas. I’ll be leaving almost a week before Christmas and returning a few days after. I’m hoping to be able to find a small tree that we can set up at the house I rented for us. I don’t know though. Today I almost called the neighbor to get the fake white tree out of my garage so I could set it up. It was that kind of a blistery, cold, winter day.
Let’s see if I can avoid setting it up because it isn’t just setting it up, it’s also tearing it down and I know I won’t have anyone to help me.
Our real tree turned out to be a lot bigger than we thought this year, too. We trimmed a whole bunch off and had to find a new place in the house to put it. It’s amazing how different they can look at the lot.
BTW – I have a small, artificial tree that you can put up in your rented house. It’s looking for a new home. It’s pre-lit with fiber optic fibers. I think it stands about 3.5 feet tall. If you’d like to have it, drop me an email. I think I live pretty close to you.
I love the snow on your blog. At first I thought it was my eyes : )
Gretchen
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Hi Gretchen. I’ve sent you an email. I’ll be by your blog later today. I’ve got running around to do!
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Always charming stories from you. I can see all this happening in living color. I am having tree problems this year, too, after discovering my son’s pitched my tree, wreaths and garland when cleaning the garage for me. They both say “Nobody” did it. Remember “Nobody” from Family Circle comic? I don’t want to get stuck on needing help for a real tree each year, so need to buy a new artificial one to last as long as I do, I hope.
I am still laughing at your driving all over with that tree on your roof for days. LOL
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I’m such a bad friend! I just found this! I LOVE you Corina I really do. I always know that you understand what I’m going through. I know that I’ll be okay no matter what happens to me because of you and I want to thank you for always being so honest about your life as a single Mom and the hope and encouragement that you’ve given to me since “meeting”.
On that note….
I think I failed to share with everyone that the day after I put that damn Christmas tree up the girls and I got home with every intention of decorating it only to find that it had tipped over in the day and that the tree stand had broke. Guess who I had to call to come and help me? My ex husband. Joy of joys. In his defense he came over without complaint and was a hero in his daughters’ eyes for helping me. The tree was put back up and the girls and I decorated it the next day and I have to say that it’s possibly the most beautiful tree I’ve ever had and I’m enjoying each day with it.
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Thank you! I think the fact that your ex came over to help is the silver lining in this cloud! Good for him! I wish I could say the same about my ex.
I’m glad you’re enjoying your beautiful tree. You and your girls deserve it!
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